5 productive positive results you need to create as a Leader and How you can learn the ALIVE leadership skills

​Have you ever prepared yourself, or you’re team for the ultimate success having the perfect strategy, project plans, crew and circumstances, and then at a critical moment you meet a total rejection, no support and no funding? Or even worse a Yes, but No setting back your dreams, your vision and all you have been working for, for a long time.
 
Some years ago, in sales school, I learned that a NO, or a rejection was one NO closer to a YES. At that point of rejection getting a NO made me devastated. In my mind I could understand the many No´s to the Yes story, but emotionally it was hard to take in.
 
As a result of a rejection, I used to go back and thoroughly investigate all potential mistakes, blaming not only my team and circumstances but also myself. Saying, “we should have done this or that, and if the stakeholders, where smarter, they would have understood how great this idea is”, and so on.
 
From my perspective I was doing my best, working hard, there was no more I could do, and still I was not able to reach the results I set to up achieve at that point. As a result of this struggle I was feeling powerless. I was a victim. Trying to push an outcome, controlling, pretending, perfecting, and numbing what was already moving in the right direction. But I did not see it that way, at the time.
 
Pushing into the resistance, using adrenalin was my prime driver and became my normal way of leading, my teams, my horses and myself. One day I was overpowered, by my own horse and made aware of my unintentional use of force and how unproductive that is. Humbly I learned from a horse, being 10 times, bigger, faster and energetically sensitive than me, to understand that I have to focus on the only thing that I really can control and influence – my own behaviour and ability to respond as a leader. The horse’s taught me that I always have a choice to respond in the face of a challenge.
 
That was the start of my journey, creating productive positive results being an ALIVE, Authentic, Listening, Intentional, Value driven and Energetic leader. 

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We have developed the ALIVE leadership methodology together with our clients and horses since 2007. Today we attract and inspire leaders in all positions from all type of industries to create productive positive results, focusing on factors that you can control and influence, feeling powerful and ALIVE.

The 5 Productive Positive Results you need to create as a leader are:

Result  1 - Speed 

Speed as a productive positive result is not about accelerating your actions; it is about preforming with less friction, being more authentic and true, creating trust. 

​The outcome of authentic communication is speed. A speed gained by being and doing what you say and do, not having to defend or explain every action, but being transparent. Also connecting to your own or your organizations stakeholders as a result of an authentic conversation gives effectiveness in personal meetings and accountability in a changing word. 

Result 2 - Create and maintain relations in business and in life

Back in sales school I learned that the reason you have two ears and only one mouth, is that you are supposed use your ears twice as much and listen. However the reason for being a pour listener is not the lack of use of your ears, but the over use of what are in-between the ears. Your reflecting brain and ego whit advanced thoughts and feelings, is a place where you easily get lost, listening to your own voices instead of others. The only way to connect and create long lasting relations, which is important in business and life, is to let go of yourself, your own agenda and start to really listen.
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​The result of listening is an ability to make sustainable connections and relations. When you learn to listen with authenticity, you meet a person in the moment with your mind and heart, and you use your ability to focus on what the person you are listening to is saying and not saying. 

You hold a safe space for the person you are focusing on, trying to understand the meaning of what is said, the context and the intentions and desires.  You begin to hear the level of anxiety expressed. You share goals, truths, values and what is possible and not possible in his or her world. You learn to separate words, from tone of voice and body language. You allow the person to clarify the situation without judgment or aasuumptions. You summarize, paraphrase, relate and reflect to ensure clarification and understanding. You allow yourself to let go of your own agenda and hold the ​​other person’s agenda sacred. You integrate and co-create and create sustainable relations in business and life. 

Result 3 - Reach goals with ease

Using your intentions in a powerful way is about aligning your desire with your, emotions, thoughts, words and actions.  That awareness will make you reach your goals with ease and grace.

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The result of clear intentions is reaching goals with ease. An intention comes from within, and creates a sense of wholeness, which makes thing happen more naturally. An intention is the difference between wanting something and having a true desire to achieve something.  It is the personalized clarification. What happens when you do not achieve your goals?  You have conflicting intentions; unconscious intentions that cancel each other out and are stopping you.

Result - 4 Success beyond success
 

Success beyond success is to live in the moment, conscious of who you are, your values and sharing yourself with others. You can have goals, but the energy should stay in the process and it does as long as you are true to yourself and your values in the process.

​A value arises from an experience, the feeling the value creates and what story you are telling about that experience. The way the story matches your inner reality determines your personal value.  You are a printout of all experience in the past. You can also look at actions as an expression of your values; you employ your skills and recourses to take a moral stance. You can evaluate the alignment between your behaviours and your values; this is the measure of your integrity or your success beyond success.
 
 
When your actions are consistent with your values, we can say that you haves achieved unconditional success: success beyond success. This success generates inner peace and happiness beyond the threats of external shocks. It is unconditional because it is based on the human being’s free will, his autonomy beyond any external factor. Even when results may not be what we want, it is always possible to feel at peace because we know we did our best to face the situation with dignity. The (superficial) sadness of (superficial) failure is totally compatible with (profound) satisfaction of (profound) success.
 

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Result 5 - Attract the right opportunities 

Energy is like a broadcast and those who do not like your energy will quickly change the station. Those who like your energy will be attracted, so you better make sure you are sending out the right signals attracting the opportunities you want to have in your life and in your business.
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​You have probably experienced both a flow of energy when everything feels easy and blocked energy when things are heavy, and the impact it can have on your body, thoughts and believes.
 
We all know what dissonance feels like. It is the opposite of resonance. It is kind of a stuck energy, and for some of us it is just the way we are. We have got used to the feeling and we think it is normal. Life is hard. Things work out for other people, but not for me. Some of us get sick and life is painful and hard work. But this is not normal. Everyone have the capacity to feel flow, which is when your energy come into alignment. This is everybody’s natural energetic state and we can all go back there and develop our own energetic consciousness.
 
To manage energy is a natural skill, that we all have and can develop and it leads us into resonance with others and our selves. Like any other skill it takes practice. Do you feel energetically open or closed? It is all about being conscious about how you are showing up right now. Emotions are energy in motions. It is your energy supporting and attracting or blocking and repelling the right opportunities in to you life.

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